Managing Your Emotional Bank Account

As we approach the end of 2023, I hope this message finds you well, blessed, and ready to be a blessing to others. The holiday season, with its festivities and celebrations, often puts a strain on our financial bank accounts. From parties and presents to vacations, the expenses can add up, leaving many starting the new year with financial challenges.

However, there’s another account that we need to pay attention to – our emotional bank account. Similar to a financial account, we make deposits and withdrawals in our emotional bank account through our words and actions. Making someone feel accepted, appreciated, and important contributes to a positive balance, while disappointment, hurt, and selfishness lead to withdrawals. Continue reading Managing Your Emotional Bank Account

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Why a Team Culture Trumps a Family Culture in the Workplace

We all spend a significant portion of our lives at work. It’s where we invest our time, energy, and talent. So, when a once-great company with fantastic people turns toxic due to a harmful company culture, it can feel like a betrayal. People become unhappy, tensions rise, and finger-pointing begins. “Culture eats strategy for breakfast,” as the renowned consultant and writer, Peter Drucker, wisely said. This isn’t to downplay the importance of strategy, but to emphasize that, no matter how brilliant your strategy may be, a toxic culture can undermine your results. Continue reading Why a Team Culture Trumps a Family Culture in the Workplace

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Pause for empathy to unleash strength

Giving friends and colleagues “air time” and allowing them to blow off steam, by just listening and validating, can help them to find their own voice, their own strength and insight to self-correct. You most often don’t have to motivate or correct them. Somehow, when we get listened to and get validated as humans, an inner strength and beautiful hope get unleashed. Continue reading Pause for empathy to unleash strength

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Relating Freely, Loving Wisely

Relationships can really complicate one’s life, can’t they? I recently got an email from a dear friend of mine explaining how complex his relational life has become. That lead me to writing this newsletter, with a more generic focus. I am going to address three general challenges that, if not managed well, can keep you (and perhaps others) trapped in a toxic and unhappy environment. I write this, not in a dogmatic, I-know-it-all kind of way, but as a student of life, still learning while inviting you to reflect and learn with me. Continue reading Relating Freely, Loving Wisely

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From Fragmentation to Integration

Have you also at times (even now) felt that your life is fragmented and that you struggle to find the so called “balance” between so many good things? Everything contends for your time, and some even try to convince you that they should be at the center stage. I mean, there can be your work or business, family, community, sport and recreation, friends, self-development and studies. Then school and church might also call for attention. And if you dare to put Facebook, Instagram, Emails and WhatsApp in the mix (because people connections matter), it feels like a wild storm from Monday to Monday. Even teenagers struggle nowadays, going to bed later and later. Continue reading From Fragmentation to Integration

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