Because of the power of the tongue a proverb says: “Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit – you choose.”
During a recent talk I asked an audience of about 150 people the following question: Who of you can honestly say that you never lie, never twist the truth – not with words or gestures, not orally, in social media or on paper? Only one funmaker put up her hand (showing with her nonverbal communication that she is lying ☺). The rest were honest enough to admit that we all are guilty sometimes. Continue reading The freedom of Truthfulness
Many of us struggle at times with an inner voice plaguing us that “you are not be good enough”. Call it a sense of insecurity or inferiority, a challenge of your true identity, or fear of rejection. Whatever. But this is an undermining voice which can be very real, keeping you from stepping out and risking to be successful. Continue reading Freedom from Rejection and Inferiority
It is interesting how we are conditioned and programmed to use words and concepts that can cause us a lot of harm and pain. Some of that is just primitive human nature. One of the primitive words most toddlers learn to use quite early is “mine!”. To them their toys, sweets, clothes are extensions of themselves. When you touch that, you touch them.
Recently I was asked to work with a group of agents (crop solution specialists) in the agriculture sector. They are all from the Southern Cape where farmers, their clients, in some areas are now going through the third or fourth dry season. Some farmers have even committed suicide, others are very depressed, and most of them are struggling. My mandate was (1) to motivate these agents who struggle to stay positive while trying to give hope and courage to their clients, and (2) to give them “tools” to help themselves and their clients. Continue reading Freedom from Toxic Ownership
Have you also at times (even now) felt that your life is fragmented and that you struggle to find the so called “balance” between so many good things? Everything contends for your time, and some even try to convince you that they should be at the center stage. I mean, there can be your work or business, family, community, sport and recreation, friends, self-development and studies. Then school and church might also call for attention. And if you dare to put Facebook, Instagram, Emails and WhatsApp in the mix (because people connections matter), it feels like a wild storm from Monday to Monday. Even teenagers struggle nowadays, going to bed later and later. Continue reading From Fragmentation to Integration
“The army is on the streets of Cape Town!” “And every week between 40 and 60 people are murdered not too far from your house.” These were the facts that confronted Capetonians end of July 2019. Our City a war zone? It’s unbelievable and yet somewhat true! Continue reading Can broken communities heal and change?